Thursday, December 20, 2012

Comforting The Bereaved: More Than Attending A Funeral

By Amanda Griffin


While it's true that funeral customs in Singapore are quite systematic, it doesn't mean that families of the deceased can actually handle the loss very well. In most known cultures, death always brings sorrow to families. This holds true for Singaporeans as well. Therefore, you have to find ways to comfort a friend during his or her time of bereavement. Fortunately, there are some basic tips that you can learn and follow to help a grieving friend.

The Dos

Read a book about grief in order to widen your understanding about it. Grief is complex and it can manifest in different ways such as anger and anxiety. Show your grieving friend that you care for him or her. It also helps to express your sympathy or be open about your sorrow. Comforting a bereaved friend is more than just attending the funeral and offering your friend a shoulder to cry on.

Listen and share stories about the dead. If the bereaved is your friend, chances are you know the deceased person, too. It would be helpful to talk about the person and share entertaining stories about him or her. Allow your friend to talk about the departed and be sure that you always listen even if they tell the same story repeatedly.

funeral services in Singapore are often held in funeral homes which typically provide private rooms for friends and family of the deceased. It's also true for the Crematorium Singapore funeral service providers offer. In these rooms, you'll find a space where you can let your friend cry out. Keep in mind that a mourning person will only be able to move on if he or she can express all those feelings. When this moment comes, be ready to give a hug.

The Don'ts

Experts say that you have to avoid telling clichs such as "it is God's will," "I understand how you feel," or "Time can heal everything." Do not stop them from crying or saying how they feel. At times simply lending a shoulder to cry on without saying a word is enough. Don't try too hard to comfort them. After all, actions always speak louder than words.




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