Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Getting Rid Of Your Anger After Her Infidelity

By Jeraldine Hemongala


Relationships are difficult under the best of circumstances. But if there has been a serious breach such as an affair, it is even more difficult. The wronged party experiences a vast array of negative emotions, including depression, hurt and anger. But it's important to move past these emotions, especially the anger. Allowing it to fester will have a negative impact on all other relationships, including your friends, family, and coworkers. It is even harmful to your health.

Having anger in your heart can unconsciously affect relationships with friends, family and coworkers. That being said, it is important to take measures to get over anger in order to regain your emotional health.

Here are some suggestions on how to handle your anger after being cheated on.

1. Talking to someone about your feelings is one of the best ways, either with a trained professional, or with a close and discreet friend or family member.

Talking to someone will help you clear your head and put things into perspective. They may give you advice but you don't need to take all of it. Take the advice that you think will help you and do it.

2. Another way to get the anger out is to write your feelings down. Again, this comes easier for some than others. The point is to get those feelings on the outside; to work out what you are thinking and feeling so you can move on to deciding what you want. Can you forgive and forget? Is the relationship worth salvaging? Is your wife willing to try again? Are you?

2. It might seem like a waste of time, but a depressed and angry person should do this on a regular basis as it benefits them greatly. Through exercise, positive hormones are released which will help to fight stress. In addition to that, your pent up energy will be released. Also, exercise will help you to feel better about yourself!

4. An act of infidelity is bound to do a number on your feelings of self worth, but it does NOT have to be the end. If the marital relationship matters to you - and to her - together you can move beyond the crisis and have a full and happy life together. However, it takes communication and a mutual commitment in order to do this.

Valuable lessons can be learned if you are objective about the incident. Keep in mind that she is, like you, an imperfect human being. She blew it. The important thing is she still loves you and wants this relationship to work.

4. Learn your lessons, and in time, things will become easier. There are many ways to distract yourself, and eventually, move on with your life.

Whether with or without her, you now have a chance at a fresh start. Use the lessons you've learned from the past to build a meaningful and happy future.




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