Saturday, August 17, 2013

How To Get A Girlfriend If You're Fat

By Patricia E. Beeson


Having a sexually and emotionally satisfying relationship is one of the most important things in life. In fact, you may say that our whole history as a species is centered around such pursuits. Wars are fought and won, great nations and empires are built, all driven by the sexual desire we try so hard to ignore.

In reality, getting a girlfriend really isn't so difficult. The model is similar to getting anything else that you want. Figure out some of the parameters, go somewhere and see what's available and choose the one you want.

Be positive and accept what you can't change. We all are not born with a silver spoon in mouth. In order to achieve success in dating life, you should accept what you don't have and then focus on the things you have. You will be surprised that you have lots of god gifted things that you can use to get beautiful girlfriends in your life. Find your passion and spend some time for you passion. If you do it, you will become a happier person. Also, women are attracted to the person who is passionate about something.

When you talk to her, you need to be that good company to work for. You've got to have high standards. You've got to make sure she's intelligent, kind, responsible and dependable. You can only find these out after a few dates.Am I suggesting that you avoid having sex for few dates? If you're looking for a good relationship with a solid woman, that's exactly what I'm suggesting.Why is this crucial? The male mind is easily confused by sex. We have sex with a girl, and suddenly she's perfect. We'll con ourselves into anything if we think it's going to get us laid again and again.This is one of those paradoxes. But here comes the best part. If you have extremely high standards, and make them qualify to you, then quality women will start chasing you, instead of the other way around.

But first consider what you've got to offer. If you were to describe yourself objectively in the third person, what kind positive traits would you come up with? Do that before you go out to build up your self confidence and self esteem.

Imagine that you're some other guy, and you're talking to an imaginary girl trying to set her up with that "you" over there. How would you sell yourself? What good things would you say about yourself?

The problem with the second strategy, seducing women is you need to know how to attract a woman before she will let you seduce her. So hereby lies the problem how do you get a girlfriend quickly and easily by attracting the right type of women to seduce?Well I have come up with a way you can speed up that process rapidly and greatly improve your odds. The first I am going to assume two things the first one is you have a mouth and the second is that you are starting completely from scratch when it comes to learning how to attract women.

Now, this may sound kind of goofy, but write down the kinds of non-physical traits that are important to you. Summarize them in one or two words, and write them as small as you can on a business card sized piece of paper. On the flip side, write down qualities that are deal breakers. Summarize those as well.

Why is this so important? Because women are hit on by guys all the time so they often look for guys that other women already find attractive. They know that if other women are around the guy then they are more likely to be attractive to women and thus seem like a more attractive choice for them to partner with. This is one of the main strategies most women use to short list who they are going to partner with.

To create social proof I recommend you start inviting all the attractive single women you interact with during the week to the same party or venue. Not women you are currently sleeping with or dating, rather colleagues, friends and potential suitors you are pursuing. What is great about this is it fast tracks your dating life and is a lot of fun in the process. It also creates the illusion of scarcity which makes you appear more desirable to a woman as there are several women and only one of you. Your time is scarce and there is only one of you and multiple women completing for your attention. While women might complain about guys like this to their nice guy friends but the truth is they secretly love the challenge of pursuing men and often end up competing with other women for them.

Would you like to know how to get a woman in one day? Would you like some handy hints to help you score someone fast? Is speed your thing and you don't have the patience for the waiting rigmarole? You have come to the right place! Read on and find out everything you wanted to know about how to be Mr. Speedster!

Be yourself. If you try to be Brad Pitt, you will fail miserably. You will be yourself if you think you are a treasure, and only if you think you are one will any girl think the same. There is something very refreshing about a real, honest man.

The second step of course is to seduce women, which means you are going to need to learn how to lead and take control of situations. You need to plan in advance where you are going to progress things next if it's going well with a woman. You need to find a way that you can make yourself feel comfortable around a woman so that you can make the first move and kiss her.A few things to keep in mind, practice your story telling. Go along to toastmasters if you have to, just make sure you are doing something constructive to improve your communication skills. If you have read any books on evolutionary science or the book "Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus" then you would know the reason women place such importance on communication.

Be a gentleman. Good manners always win the day. Open the door for her, pull her chair out, and allow her to precede you, compliment her, you know, all those nice things. Buy her a flower if you are passing a booth. Be kind and nice. If you are planning a relationship with this girl, remember to keep it up! (Keep it up anyways: you will be a much better person for it.) .Be bold. Confidence is sexy. Period. So be forthcoming with your plans for the day. Speak with confidence about who you are. Just don't brag. It puts women off.

Now to the third and final step, which is how to keep a woman around once you have her. A lot of guys end up choosing one woman too early and while it is good to choose a woman who chooses you, the first one is not always the best option. People like people who like them so you want to choose someone who likes you for who you are however remember fools rush in. You want to date a few women before you decide to get involved in a relationship as you need the experience to tell if you really like her or it's such the feelings she gives you and the physical part with are keeping you there. If you want a worth while relationship there has to be more chemistry than a physical connection.At the start of the relationship you don't want to see her to often. Once or twice a week maximum. Much more and you'll seem to clingy and needy and it's a fact that at least 30% of women said in a major survey conduct by a large dating company Plenty of Fish said that their biggest turn off was being to clingy or needy too early on in the relationship. Also anticipation is key and if you see a woman too much too early on it tends to kill the love bug quickly and your relationships fizzle out and don't end up going the distance.




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